Throw a stone first

Posted: 2011/08/02 in Relationships
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Sometimes, water can be calm, and at other times the waves are perilously high. When people entertain dark moods, there is a tendency to judge when there isn’t anything wrong, and let their fears take them into areas that aren’t entirely the truth. Fear seduces you to delicately dip your toe in the water, only to regret later when you are sunk way beyond your depth.

When a person reaches an impasse in a relationship, there is a tendency to become a little distant, just a touch offish, and possibly even superior. But how long can you keep your loved one at bay, just because you are frightened of the truth? Be honest of what is actually your fault, and how much is attributable to the other. It takes two to tango and punishment must fit the crime. Be fair.

While sticks and stones may break your bones, words can also cause a fair bit of damage. Rather than crack a few jokes and pretending all is well by nighttime, listen to what the other has to say. Not only will this endear you to them, but also heal any hurt. Respect everyone’s humanity even when there’s animal behavior involved. Nobody needs to go home with a broken heart.

The key word here is “choose.” When you overcome that initial wave of fear, you will gradually gain confidence, and things can only get better. If you want to enjoy each other’s company, then let the process of true understanding begin. Destiny doesn’t do casual, shallow and underhanded behaviors, it requires authenticity all the way.

Emotions are too powerful even for one who knows how to swim. Perhaps throw a stone before you wade the waters of your fears. See if it floats and sturdy to step on before you hurt yourself and someone else. Hearts are fragile.

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